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Ranting About Selfish People

For the last few weeks, I’ve been trying to deal with trying to cut off someone I’ve been very close to since childhood. I grew up with this person and talked to them practically every single day on a personal level.

They were someone I could turn to during a time in need. Not so much anymore, as I’ve noticed that over time, their personality has shifted into something I don’t want to be associated with.

The word I’d use for this person is avaricious. I honestly didn’t even know what the word was until I tried to find a word online to describe this person’s personality. A description of the word included this:

Someone who is avaricious is greedy or grasping, concerned with gaining wealth. The suggestion is that an avaricious person will do anything to achieve material gain, and it is, in general, not a pleasant attribute.

It feels like a fitting definition because this person has lately only been concerned about gaining wealth. As I mentioned in my “recognizing toxic personalities” post, this person often talks about things like “getting ahead” or “winning the game.”

This isn’t even necessarily a bad thing; wanting to succeed in life isn’t selfish. The problem, however, is that this person ultimately only does things that contribute to that fact regardless of who may get hurt in the process.

If you read the post I linked above, this person exploited my own personal mental health issues on their Twitter. They essentially spun their own opinions of my situation into an inspirational quote for their Twitter following in hopes it gets them more followers.

Someone who doesn’t know the context of the tweet may see it as inspirational, sure. But when I see it, I know exactly why they’re saying it because I talked to this person about it prior to them posting a tweet that they don’t think I can see. Surpise, I saw everything.

An Online Facade

Now, allow me to exploit some facts that I know about this person. I’m going to be totally transparent here, and it may come off as being petty, but you’ll understand once you see how this person truly is.

They’re pretty much portraying something they’re not because it makes them seem more genuine and relatable. On this person’s Instagram, their bio once said something along the lines of “debt free, depression free…”, stuff like that.

Let’s tackle the depression one first because this one is more personal. This person has never had clinical depression and obviously doesn’t know the severity of it because they think it’s a choice and that we have the power to change it.

This person might have experienced a very mild situational depression due to a breakup in high school, but to compare that short-term sadness to a life-long mental illness is just ignorant. This ignorance annoys me to no end.

As for the “debt free” stuff, this person has claimed to massively decrease their financial stress due to their budgeting and money management skills. They have preached this several times in an effort to seem like they’re one of those money guru’s.

The reality of it is that this person paid off a lot of debt because they lived at home with their parents until their mid 20s and didn’t have many bills. Of course you can pay off your debt when the majority of your income doesn’t have to go towards rent and groceries. It’s all a big facade.

Self-Centered Personality

I used to think this person was driven and had an ambitious personality. Now, I see that they only do things if it can benefit them. If they think that doing something doesn’t have any benefit to them, they won’t do it. If they have nothing to gain from it, it’s not worth it.

For example, Christmas for the last couple of years. This person doesn’t do gifts for other people because they always say, “My presence is the gift.” Now, this has always made perfect sense to me because Christmas isn’t about the presents. It’s about spending time with family.

That being said, we expected the same this year. However, there was a slight difference. This person didn’t buy anyone anything, not even their own parents, but they did buy something for a love interest that they’ve been talking to for a couple of months despite them living in another country and rarely seeing them.

This just seems hypocritical because they’ll preach that Christmas isn’t about the gifts (which it’s not), but then they’ll buy something for someone they’ve barely just met. Why? Because they have something to gain.

Your parents are already your parents. Your family will always be your family. Why do they need gifts? What do you have to gain from that? But a new person in your life who can fulfill your sexual needs makes sense because you directly benefit from it. See where I’m going with this?

It’s this self-centered behavior and mindset that just completely destroys any respect I had for this person. They’re not trustworthy or loyal; this much is evident just from the fact that they’ll use my mental illness to their advantage on Twitter.

Wrapping Up

I apologize if this is all over the place, but again, I had to vent my frustrations. I’m trying so hard to cope with this anger, and this is the best way I know how to let it out without lashing out.

If you’ve read this far, thank you for sticking with me. I really do appreciate all of the support from everyone. Just knowing that others can see my point of view helps me feel like I’m not losing it.

Thank you all for reading, and have a great day. 🙏


7 thoughts on “Ranting About Selfish People

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  1. Very interesting. I too hadn’t heard of avaricious until reading this. I can relate to this well as am just starting out in a “professional” career. That word does make me shudder … So I am concerned with increasing levels of independence in my life over the next few years, which inevitably requires some level of finance. Finance contributed to by enjoyable yet fairly lucrative work.
    What I don’t do though is refuse to help others if I cannot see an immediate benefit to myself. E.g. picking up fallen items on the street for others, buying others presents, spending time helping others with essays and academic work to name a few. I know many people who appear rather selfish though, so agree with your sentiments that they will try to exploit you, rather than enjoy your company and truly appreciate you as a person … Hope you have a great day aswell 🙂

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    1. All it really comes down to is morals and doing things for the right reasons. It’s totally okay to want to make a lot of money in your own profession, but don’t forget where you come from or who you are as a person. Just be kind-hearted and open-minded. Thank you for reading. 🙂

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  2. Friend…I know it’s hard to let go of a friend, especially when there is a history. I am sorry. It sucks. Let him do him…. wealth doesn’t always equate to happiness, and I hope he learns that sooner rather than later.

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  3. Vent away. Writing actually helps when you need to get something off your chest.🙂 Good for you in walking away. Sorry that this particular friend turned out not to be a true friend. But great to be unmasked now than later when greater damage possibly could have been done.

    Sometimes the people we grew up with don’t necessarily turned into the adults we hope they’ll be.

    I pray that God keeps you grounded during this hurt in your life.

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